" Erica Giesow offers this advice: "[Going slowly] gives each person in the relationship room to breathe and to enjoy dating without the pressure of getting too serious too quickly.It also protects the heart as individuals gauge whether they are good for each other.During the engagement and after marriage, she struggled with a major move and controlling new mother-in-law."I feel like we survived something that would have led many marriages to divorce," Cara says.Cara says that she knew very early in her relationship with Daniel that they would get married.So it didn't seem wrong to say "yes" when he popped the question five months into dating him (part of which had been long-distance)."I think if we had moved slower, it would have given us a chance to talk through our expectations of 'leaving and cleaving' while we were dating or engaged, rather than having the shock of dealing with dysfunctional extended family after marriage." 2. Perhaps even more than with a slowly developing romance, a fast-moving one needs to be laid bare to trusted friends and counselors.Proverbs says, "Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety." After a few weeks of dating Kevin and spending most of my free time with him, my best friend, Melissa, stepped in.
Nearly eight years later, we're happily married with four children. Other times, however, a fast-moving relationship is more like a runaway train headed for a washed-out bridge.
I invited her to give her honest opinion on the relationship, even if I didn't want to hear it.
She approved of the match, and in the process, the three of us became good friends.
She told me she was concerned about how consuming this new relationship seemed to be, and she wanted to get to know Kevin.
I was open to her reservations and recognized a need for accountability, so the three of us began doing some things together.